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Author Archives: winesoakedramblings - The Blog of Vickie van Dyke
Do You Feel Invisible?
In one of my recent scrolls through Instagram, I came upon a woman of a “certain age” bemoaning the indignities of growing old. She purported there were 4 major concerns we women will face, fight and to which we will … Continue reading
Emotional Masturbation … and Why Do We Insist on Doing It Publicly?
Many years ago, when the Canadian Smooth Jazz Awards still existed, one of my musical girlfriends attended the show. She enjoyed it immensely but still could not resist a small (and very funny) “jab” at the end, when many of … Continue reading
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Tagged death, emotion, Facebook, faith, grief, hope, loss, masturbation, private, public, quiet, social media, validation
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Now Tell the Truth … How Often Do You Adjust Yourself?
The other day I was chatting with a very old friend. We have known each other for decades and traversed many of life’s mountains and valleys together. We have also completely ignored one another for years. But our bond is … Continue reading
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Tagged adjust, authentic, compromise, empower, family, freindships, goals, health, life, love affair, mental health, person, productivity, regulation, truth, work
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And you wonder why we’re always sad …
“There would seem to be nothing more obvious, more tangible and palpable than the present moment. And yet it eludes us completely. All the sadness of life lies in that fact.” (Milan Kundera) Read that again. Slowly. Then take a … Continue reading
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Tagged awareness, drama, future, heart, imagine, life, living in the moment, marriage, mindfulness, moments, older, personal-growth, present, sad, sadness, savor, soul, struggle, unhappy
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Vulnerability in not a lifestyle …
I recently saw a Tik Tok video about vulnerability. How difficult it is to achieve. How daunting it is to maintain. How, even when you practice it a little, or a lot, it is still really hard to live it … Continue reading
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Tagged choice, heartbreak, life, lifestyle, love, manipulation, practice, pride, relationships, result, risk, solo, strength, truth, vulnerability, vulnerable
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Making Friends With Your Pain …
Or Do What You Can! … Or What I Learned From Running a Marathon. Re: Title #3 – Let’s be clear. I did not run a marathon. I ran IN a marathon. What I mean is, I snuck into the … Continue reading
“If You Avoid The Conflict to Keep The Peace, You Start a War Inside Yourself … or … Why Liz and Glennon Are NOT Super-Heroes … ”
I’m not sure who exactly said those words (not about Liz and Glennon, and it wasn’t me) but I sure as hell know I have lived it. Have you? How many of us have gone to unimaginable lengths to allow … Continue reading
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The Most Fucks I Have Ever Written in One Blog or … When It Really Is Time To Let Go …
It is one of the hardest damn things in life. It may well be THE hardest damn thing in life. Letting go. Think about it. From our first, best, favourite toy to the security of our momma’s apron strings, from … Continue reading
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Tagged acceptance, accountability, addiction, bad guy, choice, conviction, deserve, endings, farewell, friendship, fun, good guy, gratitude, guilt, hope, husband, letting go, life, love, loving, peace, pleasure, relationships, selfless, truth
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The Five Key Ingredients to a Successful Romantic Relationship …
What might they be, I pondered. And more importantly, if you knew what they were and you and your beloved could agree on them, would that give your relationship a higher chance of flourishing? I must admit, I do love … Continue reading
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Tagged accountability, compatability, compromise, connection, forgiveness, friendship, heard, honesty, humour, independence, intimacy, love, marriage, middle age, need, needs, relationships, respect, romance, seen, tolerance, transparency
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